How To Get Out Of Things You Don’t Want To Do

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“If your answer is ‘NO’ grow a pair & just say it.” @AddictiveDau #GetAddictedToTheGoodStuff

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Hi ADs,

Have you ever been asked to do something you reeeeeally didn’t want to (or knew that you wouldn’t be able to follow through with for whatever reason?)

Maybe you were invited to a friend’s birthday drinks and dreaded the idea of having to make small talk with a bunch of randoms.

Or, a colleague at work asked for your help with a project, but you were already up to the eyeballs with your own workload.

It might even have been something you actually did want to do – like going on holiday with a group of friends – but you knew you couldn’t afford it.

And, when you were clear you didn’t want to (or couldn’t) do this thing, have you ever found yourself avoiding those involved altogether because you didn’t want to disappoint them?

Being chronic People Pleasers ourselves, this situation is one we’re both very familiar with.

Countless times in the past, we’ve either begrudgingly said “yes” when inwardly we were screaming “no!” – or (even worse) – left people hanging because we didn’t have the balls to be honest & direct with them.

Whilst there are of course times in life where you’ve just gotta suck it up & do things you don’t want to, there are plenty of other times you really don’t.

If you want to learn how to gracefully say “NO” (without pissing people off) today’s Life Nugget’s just for you.

We’re really learning ourselves at the moment that people are often much more forgiving & understanding than we tend to give them credit for when it comes to saying ‘no’.

“Better to say an honest ‘no’ than a reluctant ‘yes’.” @AddictiveDau #GetAddictedToTheGoodStuff

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Once you’ve had a chance to watch, we’re interested to know:

Have you ever said “yes” when you meant “no”? How did it make you feel?

Or – have you ever avoided people who wanted something from you because you didn’t want to disappoint them?

Let us know in the comments below.

Big love,

Persia & Joey xx

Neo Khama